“I don’t do grey areas,” some people like to say. “You know where you are with black and white.” Strong, decisive, and uncompromising, is the image they’re after.
I think they’re worried about how complicated things are.
I think someone should take them to one side and tell them it’s ok to not be sure. That you can hold two competing views in your head at the same time. That you can, if you want, change your mind.
You can compromise.
It doesn’t make you a snowflake.
It doesn’t make you a flip-flopper.
How about a third way. Uncompromising in the commitment to considering the grey areas of every situation. To take nothing at face value. To judge no-one. To question everything.
Intellectually satisfying, but a real bugger for getting things done.
And therein lies the problem.
As Charles Bukowski said: “The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence.”
(Image: By AnonMoos [Public domain], via Wikimedia Commons)